Before I had met Andy and married him, I did not want children. I really didn’t. I loved being a part of a big family and loved children, but I just couldn’t imagine having my own. I had goals and big dreams, I liked being able to sleep in and to take time to look nice, and to be fair, I was pretty young when I decided this. But once I had my children, I made a few promises to myself. I promised myself that I would get a college degree (I’m now working on my third!), that I would still make time for my husband (you take the date nights and the stolen moments during the day when you can), and that I would never fall into the “I’m a mom, I don’t have to look nice” trap. I’ve had my days where I am barely functioning on little sleep, therefore applying mascara is not a priority. I admit to making many trips to the store in my gym clothes, since my kids won’t let me shower at the gym. But for the most part, I try to dress like myself, my real self, on a daily basis.
Today, I was able to dress nicely, not only for a school advisory board meeting, but for myself. I love clothes and fashion, so attire is important to me. I got to wear my favorite gray booties with a flouncy skirt, both of which I bought for a steal. More importantly, when I can wear an outfit I like and can take the time to look nice, I feel better. I feel more confident. I feel attractive, which I admit I do not always feel about myself. I feel like a person – not just a mom, a chauffeur, or an underpaid maid. I feel like Rachel. I think I remember her!
I will not always have days like today. Unlike celebrities, I do not have a stylist, a makeup artist, or a trainer to kick my butt. For us regular moms, it’s not always so easy to look or to feel beautiful. Without coffee, I would not even look conscious. Tomorrow you might see me dragging my feet to a playgroup with a typical messy ponytail and my worn-out ballet flats. You may catch me buying milk with a haggard expression and dragging a 2 year old behind me. But today, I felt like myself. And today, I kept the third promise I made in motherhood, all while juggling ballet, meetings, doctors, and the gym. I’d call that a successful day in the life of this mother. 🙂